You remain in control of your placement as the expectant mother. You can review waiting family life books, meet families in person, and choose who your child is placed with. We’ll help you get to know each family so you can feel confident in your decision. Your advocate and the family’s mentor will support you from your first hello for as long as you need us.
We believe in providing families for babies — not babies for families. At CPO, you choose the family, and you can choose to have as much or as little contact with your baby as you desire. We will walk with you as you decide whether you want a closed or open adoption.
Adoption is a lifelong journey, and post-placement support is vital. We offer ongoing support through:
• Weekly birthmother support groups
• Professional counseling with an adoption-competent therapist
• Events honoring birthmothers and celebrating adoptive families
• Community connections for adoptees and families
When you’re ready to meet, so are we. Our trained birthmother advocates can meet with you in person to talk through your options, answer questions, and simply listen. We know this is a big decision and a brave one, and you don’t have to face it alone.
If you choose adoption, your advocate will:
• Help you build your adoption plan
• Make sure you know your rights
• Connect you with your chosen family
• Walk with you every step of the way
You’ll also have your own attorney at no cost to you.
Our waiting families:
• Understand and value open adoption
• Are committed Christians and active in their communities
• Have been married at least 3 years
• Complete a licensed home study and adoption-specific training
• Live in Oklahoma and other states
• Prioritize lifelong connection and post-placement support
Families are ready to welcome children of all races and backgrounds, including those with special medical or prenatal exposure needs.
CPO is fully licensed as an Adoption Agency with the State of Oklahoma. License No. K8600077
We’re here to help women experiencing an unplanned pregnancy. It is our number one priority. If you do not see the answer to your question listed here, do not hesitate to contact us.
Open adoption involves an ongoing relationship between you, the birth mom, and the adoptive family. This openness allows you to be a part of your birth child’s life as he grows up. Many of our adoptive families and birth moms build such strong relationships that it seems they are like extended family. You, as the birth mom, can choose how open you would like the relationship to be. Openness can include visits, phone calls, letters, pictures, social media connections, and email. You can speak more with the counselor about what reasonable open adoption relationships are and how they can benefit both you and your birth child.
Please Visit BraveLove.org to learn more about open adoption and hear from other moms who have placed or considered adoption for their children.
Your birth child’s adoptive parents will always assure them of your love. You can tell your child everything about yourself that you want them to know and also have the opportunity to tell them how much you love them and why you have chosen adoption.
Yes, definitely! You will be able to spend as much time with your baby as you choose while you are in the hospital.
Yes, We offer birth mother events, support groups, licensed counseling, and advocacy for as long as you need. We have many birth mothers who stay involved with CPO or who reconnected with CPO well after placement. CPO’s Birth Mother Support Services are available to all birth mothers regardless of who they placed through and when they placed.
Potential adoptive couples must apply to CPO, be interviewed by CPO leadership, and complete a home study. A home study is a court-required document written by a licensed social worker. It describes the adoptive family, their activities, and how they are or how they plan to be good parents. It also includes a criminal background check and references from people who know the adoptive couple. They are also required to attend a 2 ½-day Waiting Families’ Workshop, provided by CPO. The home study and application information is reviewed by our staff before a family is accepted by our agency.
We have Family Profiles called “Life Books” of all of our waiting families. You will be able to look through the books we have available that meet your preferences. We encourage you to look at as many as you would like! You will then have an opportunity to meet and talk with the family or families you are interested in, if you choose.
Since CPO is Licensed in Oklahoma, you must reside in Oklahoma to place your baby through CPO. Brave Love is an organization that can direct you to an ethical and safe option near you. Get Help - BraveLove
No. CPO does not use foster care. Your baby will go home from the hospital with the parents you have chosen for him.
Yes, at the very least through telephone calls and letters or e-mail. Often a couple will be able to travel to Tulsa to meet you during your pregnancy. Couples are asked to travel to Tulsa shortly before the baby is due and to be at the hospital when the baby is born. The adoptive family is required to stay in Oklahoma until some legal paperwork is complete, usually 2-3 weeks. In many cases, these families will stay with a local CPO adoptive family for these weeks.
Yes. We have many families who see their child’s birth mom on a very regular basis. We are committed to VERY open adoptions, and the potential adoptive parents are aware of our expectations from the time they apply with our agency.
Yes. Several mothers who place a child with CPO are already parenting other children. In addition to being an adoption agency CPO is also a pregnancy and parenting resource center. You will be able to utilize those services as well.
We will provide you with a form that includes many questions about your medical history. It is crucial that you fill this out as completely as possible. This information will be valuable to your child’s healthcare providers.
You can see the counselor every week of your pregnancy and for as long as you need to after the baby is born. We have many birth moms who continue to see the counselor from time to time for several years. It is a service that we believe is very important and will always be available to you.
CPO always has families waiting to adopt children of any ethnicity.
Federal law requires that babies born to parents with Native American heritage be placed with an adoptive family in which one of the adoptive parents is enrolled in a Native American tribe.
Yes. If you have not gone to court and relinquished your parental rights, you can change your mind at any time.
We have been a licensed adoption agency since 2001, but with the help of local attorneys have supported and worked with women making adoption plans since 1983. We have always encouraged openness in adoptions, even before “open adoption” became popular.
